-- Marcy, 22, Student, VA
A: My initial reaction when I first read this question was “Who’s afraid of the big bad sex toy?
No, really, my real reaction was “Who the [expletive] is afraid of sex toys?” This is just absurd. I’m sorry, there is absolutely nothing to fear. It is not like robots replacing humans; a sex toy will never replace a penis. Not now, not ever. All it is going to do is enhance the sexual experience for both parties. And men, try and understand what I mean by both parties.
Scenario: You’re in the middle of foreplay and your sexy woman starts taking out the toys. Well, at this point, it is very obvious that she is aroused. What might be going in your mind -- if you’re a moron -- is “am I not pleasing her”?
What is actually happening is that she is extremely turned on and wants the maximum pleasure she can get out of this sexual encounter. So not only have you done your job, but you have also helped her to embrace her dirty side -- that raunchy, role playing, porn-making, ass-spanking side you always fantasize about. Well, here it is! It is right in front of you.
This is what I mean by both parties. You stand to gain a ton by helping her explore her dirty side. (Besides how ridiculously wet and aroused she will be, but that’s a whole different article).
I must say that men can’t easily misinterpret the signals women throw out. And there is no reason I can ever think of that a man should be afraid of his woman’s sex toys. I truly don’t care how extreme it gets (Editor’s note: I’m not surprised) . Your job as a man is to embrace that side of her and go with it.
I have read so many articles about this topic where the author says “Tell her how you feel and ask her not to bring them out so often.” My response is the classic J.Boz catch phrase “F*ck that shit.” I promise you that if you tell her what the cheese ball, half-assed sex therapist who never gets laid says, that your sex life will commit suicide.
It’s that simple.
The Gold Rule: Embrace and indulge your woman in every way, from sex toys to anything else that she is interested in. If I were you, I’d buy her a new toy!
-- J. Boz