Q: What is a good second date after dinner & drinks was the first?
-- Jason, 28,
A: Ahhh, this is great! I’m assuming you guys stopped reading all of that “take her to a picnic,” “serenade her” crap all over the Internet. I have read a ton of these “Top Ten Date Ideas” and, to be honest, I am starting to wonder who they are writing that for. Now I won’t post any links to any of these bad date ideas because I do not want to get sued, but you get the drift.
The second date is actually quite simple. Assuming you paid some attention during dinner you should have an idea of what she’s into. For example, if you listened, she probably mentioned art, music, museums or maybe hard drugs! So let’s use that as a starting point. If you really think this girl has potential, you definitely want to impress, but do not be that creepy over-the-top guy.
If you are saying to yourself right now, I am not that creepy over the top guy, then you are. I do not have to get into the details about why you ruin it for all of us, so just cut that shit.
Moving on! So think of her interests, and plan something around that. A woman loves nothing more than a confident man. Assert yourself and make the decisions -- I promise she will eat it up. If you truly aren’t sure if she will enjoy your plans, or you just didn’t listen during the first date (which means there shouldn’t be a second one in the first place) then give her two -- maximum three -- choices.
The entire point of this article is to be creative. The more thought you put into the dates the better off you will be. And this doesn’t just stop after a few dates -- as time goes on, you have to become even more creative when it gets to the relationship phase. I can’t stress the importance of this. Good marriages (or relationships) take work and this is a large part of it. (We will get to this in later articles).
-- J. Boz
Note: I recommended this for this for the person who actually sent this question, and he said that when he gave his date the options she was enthralled. So this does work!